The Want or Need to do Something Useful

I was talking with someone the other day about changing their life. I tried to get them to see the big picture of how most people just follow others in life. Most people are standing in the middle of a field, but they are looking through a random piece of glass. All you have to do is remove the glass and so many other things become available to you. As I was talking with this person I noticed that there is no way you can convince someone to do anything. Rather it is the person that has to convince themselves that what you have to say really is for them. She had excuses for everything that happened any time through the day. Im sure we all did this at some point in life. Someone says hi and you automatically assume you know what they are going to say. My fault was lying. As soon as someone even thought about talking to me I already had a lie in place. What you have to do is first notice what it is when you are doing something wrong. The key to changing yourself is to understand exactly how you are. People can tell you something until they are blue in the face, but it is up to you to do the action. The next thing to do is to admit that you are wrong. Doesn't matter if you are right. Doesn't matter if you are wrong. Just for that moment that you may be arguing at your wife, or maybe someone told you to do something and they don't remember what they said maybe. Just admit that you are wrong. This is the first step to seeing your faults. The next thing you should do is later in the day, reflect on what happened and see who really was wrong in the situation. What was your wife yelling at you about? Was it because of something you did, or was there no reason at all? This helps you to determine who is right and wrong. If you clearly understand yourself by now and you know that you were right or wrong, then you have just taken a major step to changing who you are. As I wrote in one of my other blogs, commitment is key also. When you want to do a major overhaul on your life, you have to be committed to what you want to change yourself into. The time is now. Doesn't matter if you aren't going to reach your goal for ten years. Start working on it now. Do something everyday that will have you working to wards your goal. Start with the little things and build on them to eventually reach that goal that you want to reach. These are just some of the things that I had talked to this person about and as I was talking to her. I didn't see any change. Its true that you may not see any change right away, but as an entrepreneur if something needs to be changed I change it immediately. The moment that I say ok this is what I need to do, make sure its done. The longer you wait to do something the more you wont want to do it. The farther away from your goal you will actually get. Success is found within an individual. Not from who is around them or what they have been through in life. Of course these things may help to build that individual, but the individual brings about the success themselves. No one can change you but yourself.